Bonding With Grandparents
If you've ever turned to your parents or your partner's parents for help and support with child-rearing, you know how wonderful grandparents can be. Although physical distance and parenting differences can come between grandparents, their kids, and their grandchildren, encouraging a close relationship can benefit everyone involved.
Establishing a bond with grandparents is great for kids in many ways. Grandparents can be positive role models and influences, and they can provide a sense of cultural heritage and family history. Grandparents provide their grandkids with love, have their best interests at heart, and can make them feel safe.
Grandparents also encourage a child's healthy development. Overnight trips to Grandma's house, for example, may be less traumatic than sleepovers with peers and can help kids develop independence. Another benefit — grandparents may have lots of time to spend playing with and reading to kids. Such dedicated attention only improves a child's developmental and learning skills.
Tips for Staying in Touch
In today's world, though, families may be scattered across the country, and jam-packed school and work schedules may interfere with regular time with grandparents. Despite physical distance or busy schedules, you can encourage your kids to develop a closer bond with their grandparents.
Try these tips:
- Visit often. If your child's grandparents live nearby, make an effort to save time in your busy schedule for regular visits. Encourage grandparents to visit your home, too. Plan regular trips to see out-of-town grandmas and grandpas. Even if visits are infrequent, anticipating and planning the next trip can help your child regard that time as special.
- Stay in touch with technology. Use the telephone, email, Skype, etc., to talk, write, and send pictures and sound files of your kids to grandparents. If they don't own a computer, send videos of the kids in action. Or have a grandparent record a reading of a favorite story and play it for your child at bedtime.
- Say cheese. Post snapshots of grandparents in your home and point them out to your kids often. Or keep family pictures in a special photo album and page through it while naming the family members.
- Mail call. Kids love receiving mail, be it an e-mail or a letter in the mailbox. Encourage communication by having your child send e-mail — both kids and grandparents will anticipate the regular communication. Or, if you prefer the old-fashioned way, send grandparents a box of stationery and postcards and some stamps and ask them to write regularly.
- Pass it on. Many grandparents have hobbies or special skills — such as knitting, woodworking, or cooking — that they'd love to pass on to their grandkids. Give your kids the time and tools needed to learn these skills from their grandparents.
- Chart a family tree. Both younger and older kids enjoy learning about their ancestors and relatives. Encourage grandparents to share stories of their families. You can even provide paper and drawing supplies (or geneology software) so they can chart the family tree.
Safety Away From Home
Whether grandparents live nearby or you're planning to visit, don't forget to make safety a priority. Grandparents may not be used to having young kids in the house, and household dangers could mean trips to the emergency room.
Use a household safety checklist and work with the grandparents to childproof the home, making that dangerous items — such as cleaning products, medicines, razors, and knives — are out of reach or locked in a cabinet. Consider walking through the home with the grandparents to look for any potential safety hazards. They may not realize that small or breakable items are a choking or safety risk.
Taking these precautions ahead of time can free kids and grandparents to make the most of their special time together.